STOP PLAYING WIFE when your MAN IS NOT PLAYING HUSBAND

Let the church say...AMEN!!!!!

*MESSAGE**

To all the desperate women out there: Stop it.

You're making it hard for the rest of us.
I'm tired of encountering men who seem to believe all
they have to do is look good, have a degree and smile to have
my panties fall off.

I'm tired of the men who's first question seems to be:
Can you to cook?
To which I reply: Yes. I can. But I won't be doing it for you.


I'm tired of the men who call at all times of night, asking to
come over and "chill" as I let them know that it's too late to be at
my crib and what ever"chilling" they want to do can be done between
the hours of 9 and 10.Or how about the men who don't have a pot to piss
in or a window to throw it out of but seem to think it's their right
in life to have a "dime".
And that my extra fly ass should be grateful that they even said
hello to me and can't understand why I'm not leaping up and down at the prospect of being with them.possibly

And please, don't get me started on all of the men who tell me that I want them as much as they want me. Right. So all those texts and phone
calls I didn't return didn't send the message that I wasn't interested,huh?

The reason why so many men today think that they have to do so little to attract quality chicks, is because they don't. Too many women out here
will do whatever it takes to find, get and keep a man, turning the whole natural order of the dating world on its head. Women are doing the
chasing and men are doing the choosing. And apparently I'm the only one who seems to think something is wrong with that.

I'm old school. I may only be 28, but I was raised to believe that it's a man's job to court me. He does the chasing. I do the choosing. Simple.
And effective. But now, because of the very real demographic differences among a certain section of the Black community, women are doing whatever
it takes to get a man. And I do mean whatever.

If that means cooking, cleaning, sexing, cow towing, begging, pleading, giving money to, letting live with, catching a case for (no lie) or just
being a 21st century rendition of a Geisha with none of the perks who completely takes Destiny's Child "Cater to You" to heart with little to no reciprocation, then so be it. If that's what it takes to get and keep
a man, then that is what too many women are willing do.

I'm sorry, but I just can't get down like that. As I have had to tell one too many men: I am not your wife. And even if I was, I wouldn't be
bending over backward to cater to you. If you want 150% from me, then you better be giving me 150% in return. But don't expect to operate on
10% and expect me to give you 150. If you're operating on 10%, I'm operating on 20 and that's just because I'm nice--sometimes.

To put simply: I give as good as I get. You wanna wife, you need to put a ring on my finger.
I don't play wife, unless you're playing husband.
A sentiment I wish more young women would take to heart.


Sent from:
Mz. Morris
Atlanta, GA

Comments

Anonymous said…
Amen! Amen! Amen! It's refreshing to know that there are women out there who have the same standards and values as myself. I'm 41 and I've been single for a very long time, simply because my standards and expectations are high. You are absolutely correct, there are way too many women out there willing to settle for less, just because they don't want to be alone and they say "Well I have needs". I say, Love the Lord, then you'll learn to love yourself and you won't settle for less. The Lord will guide you and keep you strong. Know that you deserve the best, the very best.....you don't need a scrub with game...
Anonymous said…
I agree 100% with the both of you. Women these days do settle for whatever they can just so they can say "my man this, my man that" ok and how many others think he is there man?? Im sure at least 2 others are thinking the same thing about "your man"! I dealt with a guy for a few years and yes he had "another chick" which she knew about me also. After a while it got tiring for me to keep up with all the BS that comes along with just setteling for this man. I said you know what i NEVER came second to no other female as far as men i dealt with so I had to step back and ask myself WTF are you doing, this isn't even like me. So i removed myself from the situation. I know I am a good woman and I am content being alone. There is a difference between being lonely and being alone. Im far from lonely that i will settle or chase a man that is not worth my time anyway. A woman chasing a man is not how it is suppose to be! Wake up ladies. Love yourself and be content with yourself. Go buy a toy for your needs. Please your own needs lol!
Anonymous said…
I would just like to say that I agree with the original and additional comments. My only objection is, why PLAY a wife only if he PLAYS a husband? If you're not his wife and he's not your husband, don't perform wifely duties. That will stop all the game playing from the door. Be a wife to someone who makes you one and respects you as such, don't PLAY the part of a wife.