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2008-10-23T22:48:00.001-05:00

Holding a grudge? Withholding forgiveness? It's draining your energy!

2008-10-21T11:25:00.000-05:00

Few things drain your energy or steal your joy like refusing to forgive someone who has done you wrong. Whether it is a backstabbing co-worker, an irresponsible family member or the rude driver who cut you off in traffic this morning, it is critical to your well-being that you not hold on to grudges and anger. When you do, it drains your energy, increases your stress level, and diminishes the quality of your everyday life. You can hold on to a grudge and the other person has no idea that you're upset with them. Don't allow space in your mind for grudges. You have too many other important things in your life and you need your positive energy!

You might not have even noticed some of the grudges you are holding, but this week, I challenge you to make a list. Write down all of things you are holding a grudge against others for and a list of the people you need to forgive. Then one by one, make a decision to forgive. Make a phone call, write a letter, send an email or have a conversation if you need to. But make a choice to cleanse your mind and spirit of the poison that springs from an unforgiving heart. How? Consider these four principles to help you let go of grudges and forgive.

1. RECOGNIZE THAT "HURTING PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE".In Rich Minds, Rich Rewards, I wrote a chapter titled "Seek to understand rather than judge." Essentially, it means that everyone does things for a reason. They may not be good reasons, but nonetheless they behave (whether negatively or positively) based on their experiences. Insecurity, anger, frustration, and jealousy are just a few of the negative emotions that can be the root cause of people's negative actions and words. It isn't an excuse for bad behavior, but it can help you to not take people's offensive words or actions personally. Hurting people hurt people. That rude boss, neighbor, relative or co-worker may act as though nothing bothers them, but their hurt is obvious by how they treat you and others.

2. HAVE MERCY.People make mistakes. Some are just plain ignorant. Others have never learned how to treat people well. Have mercy on them. Pray for them. We have all done things that hurt others or offended them, and God has mercy on us. We must do our best to have that same kind of mercy on others.

3. PRAY.There are times when you simply will not feel like forgiving someone. They may have crossed the line in a major way. Perhaps they not only hurt you, but those you love. I know from experience that it is possible to forgive people who seem unforgivable. All things are possible with God. The larger the offense, the more important it is to pray for your ability to forgive. You can pray a simple prayer such as this: "Lord, I don't know how to forgive this person so I need your help. Change my heart so that I can forgive. I can only do this through your power and not in my own strength." Simply praying such a prayer will begin to soften your heart and lift the weight of an unforgiving attitude from your shoulders. When you are able to forgive after praying, you will know that it was the power of the Holy Spirit making an inward change in you.

4. LEARN THE LESSON. Often, we go through adversities and challenges to learn important lessons. If you find yourself regularly being treated in a way that warrants forgiveness, you must ask yourself, "Do I need to end this relationship or change these circumstances?" Forgiving someone doesn't mean you allow them to do the same thing over and over. It is possible to forgive someone, and yet, move on from the relationship. It's all about the boundaries you choose to set. Protect yourself from people and situations that are not supportive, healthy or reciprocal. My challenge to you this week:Forgive and let go of grudges! Then watch your energy level rise.

STOP PLAYING WIFE when your MAN IS NOT PLAYING HUSBAND

2008-07-31T19:33:00.003-05:00

Let the church say...AMEN!!!!!

*MESSAGE**

To all the desperate women out there: Stop it.

You're making it hard for the rest of us.
I'm tired of encountering men who seem to believe all
they have to do is look good, have a degree and smile to have
my panties fall off.

I'm tired of the men who's first question seems to be:
Can you to cook?
To which I reply: Yes. I can. But I won't be doing it for you.

I'm tired of the men who call at all times of night, asking to
come over and "chill" as I let them know that it's too late to be at
my crib and what ever"chilling" they want to do can be done between
the hours of 9 and 10.Or how about the men who don't have a pot to piss
in or a window to throw it out of but seem to think it's their right
in life to have a "dime".
And that my extra fly ass should be grateful that they even said
hello to me and can't understand why I'm not leaping up and down at the prospect of being with them.possibly

And please, don't get me started on all of the men who tell me that I want them as much as they want me. Right. So all those texts and phone
calls I didn't return didn't send the message that I wasn't interested,huh?

The reason why so many men today think that they have to do so little to attract quality chicks, is because they don't. Too many women out here
will do whatever it takes to find, get and keep a man, turning the whole natural order of the dating world on its head. Women are doing the
chasing and men are doing the choosing. And apparently I'm the only one who seems to think something is wrong with that.

I'm old school. I may only be 28, but I was raised to believe that it's a man's job to court me. He does the chasing. I do the choosing. Simple.
And effective. But now, because of the very real demographic differences among a certain section of the Black community, women are doing whatever
it takes to get a man. And I do mean whatever.

If that means cooking, cleaning, sexing, cow towing, begging, pleading, giving money to, letting live with, catching a case for (no lie) or just
being a 21st century rendition of a Geisha with none of the perks who completely takes Destiny's Child "Cater to You" to heart with little to no reciprocation, then so be it. If that's what it takes to get and keep
a man, then that is what too many women are willing do.

I'm sorry, but I just can't get down like that. As I have had to tell one too many men: I am not your wife. And even if I was, I wouldn't be
bending over backward to cater to you. If you want 150% from me, then you better be giving me 150% in return. But don't expect to operate on
10% and expect me to give you 150. If you're operating on 10%, I'm operating on 20 and that's just because I'm nice--sometimes.

To put simply: I give as good as I get. You wanna wife, you need to put a ring on my finger.
I don't play wife, unless you're playing husband.
A sentiment I wish more young women would take to heart.

Sent from:
Mz. Morris
Atlanta, GA

CLOSER THAN YOU THINK

2008-07-31T08:24:00.000-05:00

Do not cast away your confidence, for it carries a great reward (Hebrews 10:35).

Today's Word from Joel and Victoria

Have you been praying and believing for something that seems like its taking a lot longer than you thought? Many times, people can miss Gods best simply because they give up before they see their due season come. Dont let that be you! Be encouraged today, your answer is closer than you think. If it seem like things are getting more difficult, remember, when the intensity heats up, that means you are closer to your victory. It always seems darkest just before the dawn arrives. You serve a faithful God, and Hes working behind the scenes on your behalf. Dont cast away your confidence today because your reward is coming. And just like a new mother forgets about her labor pain when she is finally holding her newborn, youll forget about your struggle when you are holding on to your promise. While you are waiting, keep an attitude of faith and expectancy. Wake up every morning and say out loud, I've come too far to give up now. My due season is coming. I will reap my harvest.Stay in faith and look for His hand of blessing because He has promised you victory and its closer than you think!

A Prayer for Today
Father in Heaven, today I stand believing that You are working behind the scenes on my behalf. Give me Your strength to continue believing until I see Your promises fulfilled in my life. In JesusName. Amen.

The Most Beautiful Rainbow

2008-07-28T14:10:00.001-05:00

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back. Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.

Author...........................Unknown

Is it hard to find a Good Man in Harrisburg, PA?

2008-05-29T15:17:00.005-05:00

This question was submitted to me in a email and I thought that it would be good for all of us to add in on....

QUESTION: Being a woman, is it hard to get a decent black man to commit to a relationship let alone marriage on 2008? Being as though that’s what your looking for right now, and the choices are slim to begin with?

ANSWER: Well my response to this is.. every woman has their own version of what a Decent man is to them. I don’t think it is hard to find a man to commit but we as women have to give them something to commit to. If a woman or a man wishes to want and seek marriage, they must align themselves for that, meaning having god in your life and trying to live by his design (however you envision his design anyway). Without god in your life there is no way that you could think that you will be blessed with someone to love you unconditionally for life. Many woman are eagered to get married but they don’t think after the fact “now I am married, whats next?” and some women think that finding there husband is screwing every man they see. You have to have a firm understanding of what you want and devote yourself to waiting for that. Yes we all want a man to love us forever but are we willing to do what it takes to love them forever as well? I don’t feel that the choices are slim, but I can say that in the Harrisburg area it is rather slim.. you have got to learn how to step out of the box. No one says that your soul mate has to be where you reside.

I would love to hear your views on this matter..

THE TRUTH W/SMALL CITIES

2008-05-19T13:37:00.003-05:00

Okay I am trying to figure out why men in smaller cities or towns do the things they do. I have alot of single friends and I hear so many stories on the daily basis and all I can do is laugh (because I am currently not dating locally) at what men actually try to get away with.

So one of my girlfriends ,who is SBF w/masters degree no children, went out in Harrisburg, Pa and came across this gentleman whom she thought was pretty put together. So as they started to converse she asked him was he single because most men in Harrisburg are in relationships but they play the field. So this dude tells her " I am in a situation" LOL yes I know ladies -this is too common in the small city. She says "well a situation I don't need! Who do you live with?" he states "I have a roommate" ; she says " is that roommate a female" he says yes and then she asked was it his situation and he says "yes that is what I call it a situation" so at this point I would have just backed off but I understand if your out drinking and socializing you don't think that talking is a bad thing just as long as it stays there. Ok so they exchanged numbers, the next day she gets a call from a private number and it was him saying "I had to block the number because I am calling from home!" WTF She told him that : I am so sorry but I don't really like to partake in any drama. He begs and pleads for her to wait for him for he is in the process of breaking things off... she let it slide and told him politely that she was busy. The next day the dude called her from his cell phone and after 5mins of talking he told her that he can't talk too much longer because he is about to RUN OUT OF MINUTES! can you believe that broke azz shyt?

My first impression of this whole thing is "what is wrong with this dude? He is begging for this girl to wait for him to get out of his situation" another thing is we as women never seem to go with our first instincts.. if this dude tells you the first night that he is in a situation at that point you should just simply leave it be. Why is it that men are never satisfied with the one they are with but they continue to stay for some kind of gain (personal, financial) and disrespects her by sleeping around. Another thing: why do women chose to date a man that has a girlfriend and all you get out of it is intimacy? they actually sit their and complain about why they are the bottom chick and how he treats them but in all actually, you chose the role in that relationship. If you decided to be the bottom chick please just know your place in line and deal with it. And most importantly the role you chose isn't like a job; you don't get promoted for showing good faith. You will stay in the same position you chose until you decide enough is enough.

If anyone has any input on this matter please post a comment at the bottom thank you for paying attention good night lol

ST. PATTY'S DAY

2008-03-18T08:00:00.002-05:00

WELL FOLKS LAST NIGHT I WENT TO CELEBRATE ST. PATRICKS DAY..I know I know your thinking "isn't she black? why the hell is she out partying like she is irish?" LOL I HAVE LEARNED THAT ST. PATTY'S DAY IS NOT JUST FOR THE IRISH because quite frankly all humans have a peice of irish as well as african american in them but they hate to admit it LOL OK I AM JUST KIDDING BUT SERIOUSLY I LOVE IRISH PUB'S AND I TOTALLY ENJOYED PARTY'N DOWNTOWN IN HARRISBURG,PA FOR THE FIRST TIME. I GOT TO TAKE ABOUT 70 PHOTOS OF THE NIGHTLIFE DOWNTOWN: you can access it by going to www.partymefamous.com and clicking on photos. OH AND I WAS SO SURPRISED THAT I WASNT THE ONLY BLACK CHICK ROCKN OUT TO SOUND GARDEN LOL

C.I.A.A. TOURNAMENTS IN CHARLOTTE, NC

2008-02-29T13:12:00.002-06:00

WELL TODAY I AM ON MY WAY TO CHARLOTTE FOR THE C.I.A.A. well really for the PARTIES LOL. WISH I COULD TAKE YOU ALL WITH ME BUT NOW THAT I THINK ABOUT IT I AM GLAD YALL CAN'T MAKE IT (because I never asked ya anyways lol)

COLOR STRUCK IN THE DATING WORLD

2008-02-23T16:21:00.003-06:00

Okay so this article is for my brown skin African beautiful queens...have you ever met a black guy who stated that he prefers light skinned women more then other shades, BUT they still date brown skin dark skin even though they PREFER light skinned-Spanish mix women?

I am a beautiful brown skinned, intelligent African American women and even though this discussion was between me and my homiez it still struck a cord. I thought those days were over of being color struck. my friend who said this is a very very dark skinned male who is alright looking I mean don't get me wrong everyone is entitled to have a preference, but to throw in the race thing is a bit old. I WAS SO SHOCKED BY THIS REALLY. That is like when a black man says "I DON'T DATE WHITE CHICKS or I WILL ONLY MARRY IN MY RACE" but then turn around and fuck white girls! that is what color struck men do, they will smut out their non-preference chicks just to pass time but when there PREFERENCE comes walking in thru that door they will break their damn necks.

To all those men out there that are COLOR STRUCK try telling the girl your dating of your preference and see how she takes it. I always expect this kind of behavior from white people when it comes to interracial dating but never my black kings. Then they go around saying that it is hard for them to find a good women I SEE WHY

I mean I have a strong preference to date only financially stable men am i wrong? someone out there let me know

REALIGNMENT OF GODS BLESSINGS

2008-02-21T13:07:00.002-06:00

So like usual I wake up in the middle of the night and the tv is stuck on Church Seminars!! I always feel like they are talk to me directly (probably just because I am up just when they start saying things that might relate to me) so T.D. Jakes was preaching about how when you claim something- it calls for change and how we tend to miss the blessing because we are not aligned to accept it. He says that if you claim your job but not the training or extra schooling to keep that job your MISSING THE BLESSING, how you claim that house but don't pay the mortgage your MISSING YOUR BLESSINGS. Many times we know what we want to achieve but we don't consider the things we have to do to get there; whether it means surrounding yourself with new faces, stop drinking or partying, going back to school, giving up the bad food to live a healthier longer life. You need to realign yourself in order to be aligned for god's blessing!

Many of us think that we are suppose to know what to do but when it is god's blessing, he will put you where he need you to be in order to accept the blessing. He will break you down to work with you, you could lose everything just to be aligned for his blessing. Once you recieve his blessing you will then know that it was all his plan to nurture you from the bottom to the top.

I trully understood everything he was saying (even though it was 4am and I had to get up at 6am) because just 2years ago my life took a bitter turn for the worst and I couldn't understand why the things were happening to me, but i prayed nonstop and as the sun came through the storm I understood God's Plan for me and I am forever thankful.

well I hope you enjoyed it as much as i did. Have a great day!!

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!!

2008-02-14T07:44:00.003-06:00

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY to all the people that read my blogs! here is something that a dear dear close friend sent to me that I thought was so true to my personality so...WHY NOT SHARE IT LOL:

Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right. Forget about the ones who don’t. Believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands and embrace it. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.

Wow!

I FINALLY HAVE THE ANSWER LMAO!!!

2008-02-12T13:57:00.000-06:00

Ok so I have all kinds of friends, white, black, chinese and I finally figured this thing out. So when I starte dmy website I sent out a mass email, Text messages to all of my contacts on my laptop as well as my cell phone. The message was this: Hey check out my website, I just started it and i am designing all by myself, let me know what you think!" so out of all of my friends I wondered why only the black friends replied to it before looking at my site with this: "what is it?" WTF so I was getting frustrated because I am like Damn none of my white and chinese friends responded with this, they just checked it out and signed my guest book LOL. so I am like "well that is why I sent you the link for you to CHECK IT OUT and get back to me.

So last night I was talking to my african american friend online from Alaska and I told her to check it out and just like all of my black friends she asked what it was -so this time I got pissed and said "what the fuck why all my black friends got to be so damn difficult -look at the damn site-all my white friends didn't have no problem with this email" she then told me why they didn't-she said " white folks run towards danger, black folds ask before proceeding" lol I thought it was the funniest shyt in the world because I never looked at it like that!!

SO TO ALL MY AFRICAN AMERICAN FRIENDS I SAY SORRY- I FINALLY GOT THE ANSWER LMAO!!!

The Haters Come in All Shapes And...

2008-02-07T21:25:00.000-06:00

So you know I have to vent at times and this is the best place to do it at. Yes I moved away from Harrisburg, Pa and alot of cats didn't know where or what I was up to. And now that I am back in the Burg doing my hustle and making my money (which I always did) and hanging around positive professionals.. there always seem to be room for the worst of the worst to creep into my positive universe. I love everyone so please keep up the good work. Don't ever be mad at someone who obtained the skills or knowledge that you were afraid to get! To anyone who is looking at progressing in life just keep god in your corner first and let him deal with the haters he knows best.

On a more positive note i am loving all the feed back I am getting from my party site and look forward to all the haters coming back to my site and checking me out again after all EVERYTIME YOU PUNCH IN WWW.PARTYMEFAMOUS.COM YOUR SIGNING MY PAYCHECKS lol..so thanks for adding to my INCOME TAX come back soon now ya hear!!

My Thank You's

2008-01-25T15:16:00.001-06:00

I just want to start out by saying thank you to everyone on the internet for checking out my site. It is amazing how many blessings can cross your path over the internet that you never even met in person. When I started this site the name came to me in a dream that woke me straight up out of bed (I think by the grace of the lords prayer). I didn't know how I was going to do this but I knew that I had no choice but to do this. I feel as though god moved me away from Harrisburg a year and a half ago for me to see a different path. you know how they say everything happens for a reason and sometimes you never know what your doing but you know that it is gods work and if isn't for you to know you just have to do it with faith that he will supply the answer and the reward. I know god has a plan for me and I am learning it day by day.

So back to the site: I didn't know how I was to develop it but I talked to one person who opened up my vision so much (Bryan Smolock) and gave me the links to read on how to develop this thing. I did that now what? I then remembered a guy that I met over the internet a year ago on a dating site (khalid) so i texted him to check out my site and he also educated me on advertising for the site. now remember what i said about BLESSINGS !!! And finally about 2weeks ago I sent out a vast email to (again) people I didn't know (got their email from a group email I received) and this guy emailed me back today to give me another BLESSING towards my site about an internet photo lab. OMG I have never been so blessed in my life. It is amazing how the lord puts people into your life.

I just want to thank you all again, it shows me that as long as I have GOD and PRAYER as well as HOPE and FAITH, the reward is better than money. LOVE PEACE AND BLESSINGS EVERYONE

Freaking United Airlines

2008-01-21T07:53:00.000-06:00

ok so out of all the airlines in the world i hate united airlines..these damn mofo's overbooked every flight then to top it off some stupid ass lady at check in takes "my E-Ticket" that i purchased 3 wks ago and goes remove it then they had me on standby for a flight i already paid for. THEY SUCK BUTT! So I had a layover in Washington, DC and let me tell ya that is the most ghettoist airport i have every seen.. everyone there speaks everything but freaking english. i had this chinese guy tell me that i am on standbye! when i tried to explain the situation with him (in a calm professional manner) he tells me that if i say another word he will have me removed from airport WTF..i guess he got more mad when i said " just cause you speak chinese and i speak english that doesnt mean that i am hollering or cursing at you mister" LOL well needlest to say that i got on that damn flight or he was going to here the business lol.

well i have to deal with the airlines again today since i am flying back home. DARN IT!
KEEP CHECKING OUT THE SITE THANKS FOR LETTING ME VENT.

Well folks its 6am and i am on the road

2008-01-12T05:10:00.001-06:00

Well folks its 6am and i am on the road to NC for my bday weekend. I am driving while sending this i hope i dont get pulled over lol. Keep checking out my party site for updates

To Be or Not to be

2008-01-09T09:36:00.000-06:00

As I sit here thinking about what else I can do to this damn thing I am wondering "Damn I really should be planning what to do for my birthday on Sunday the 13th" I mean should I go to NY to see family and friends or should I go to my second home NC to see some friends hmmm I knowI am going to NC for MLK weekend to do some parties for my site but I dont really know what I will be doing if I stayed up this way besides spending my damn money lol.. Any solutions???

DAY 3

2008-01-08T11:05:00.001-06:00

Well this is day number 3 w/the site designing. I am learning this thing as i go along and let me tell ya it is not no walk in the park. But continue to come by and check out my progress

The Preparation

2008-01-06T13:16:00.000-06:00

Today is the day for change.. PartyMeFamous.com day one of preparation. My site is going to be one of the best sites for partyn and dining out. I am testin out this blogger.com to see how it can with with my website for events and listing. HERE WE GO....